EPT[Girl Blog] I'm gloomy and feeling down :( - Page 2
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StormSnarlX
United States278 Posts
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OutlaW-
Czech Republic5053 Posts
On July 20 2011 03:27 ILOVEKITTENS You really outdid yourself today, this post is full with so much win and truth that everyone who just followed this post could easily become a personality that everyone loves from a complete sore loser. Well done, sir, hat's off | ||
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Maero
349 Posts
Cheer up OP, it's all in your head. If you think you can, you can - and if you convince yourself you can't, you won't. | ||
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PartyBiscuit
Canada4525 Posts
Also, confidence begins by stopping the excessive  + Show Spoiler + On July 19 2011 21:24 panda_inc wrote: Hello fellow TLers. I am 24, single, poor, going to university and is your typical nice/average guy who plays alot of starcraft ..... I don't think I'm unsociable but I tend to get depressed easily and when I'm depressed, I just don't feel like doing anything  Two weeks ago, I started working my new part time job as a fund raiser for a charity. The job bascily involves approaching random people on the street and convincing them to contribute on a regular basis. (i got the passion and skillset for it but it just drains so much out of me because of my introverted personality). Long story short. I met this girl on my first day of work. I didn't find her super cute/attractive at first. But while fund raising together she was just so incredibly supportive and nice to me the whole day and we had these wonderful conversations through out the day, at lunch and on our commute home. By the end of day I pretty much fallen for her. It was a nice sunny day too. I received an updated roster the next day and I checked my work roster for the next fortnight and I did not get rostered with her in any of my 6 shifts. I kept thinking about her for 3 days and decided to call her and ask out to come to a friends birthday dinner with me. It took alot of courage to finally make the call but im glad i did. The convo went pretty smoothly but she said she already had plans To make things worse, the weather has been so cloudy and rainy the following days at work and I couldn't get any one to sign up. We have a quota and I'm doing so badly. At this rate I might get fired before I get to see her again.... so sad and gloomy. I don't know what to do right now. I feel like just giving up on her. And might as well give up the job too. even though I really want to do well in this job that I find really meaningful and I really really like this girl I hate this damn weather. I hate mean people. Fellow TLers who are nice. Please cheer me up and give me some advice. | ||
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GigaFlop
United States1146 Posts
Follow ILOVEKITTENS's advice. Like a Boss. | ||
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FFGenerations
7088 Posts
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Slithe
United States985 Posts
On July 20 2011 05:07 GigaFlop wrote: I see that KITTENS has returned. Nice to see another gigantic, well-written post by him. I jsut hope the rest of this thread actually helps the OP instead of saying 'LOL KITTENS IS AWSUM', even though he is. Follow ILOVEKITTENS's advice. Like a Boss. There is no more help to be given. Thor has spoken, and that's the end of the matter. | ||
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obesechicken13
United States10467 Posts
On July 19 2011 23:00 Servius_Fulvius wrote: So you made a new friend. Awesome. But falling for her already? You kind of remind me of Jim Carrey from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind: Huh... I think I have to watch this movie now. To OP make a move or get out of line, there are braver men waiting to meet her. | ||
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Probulous
Australia3894 Posts
 Secondly, Fightclub ->Squats -> Fap -> Grow a pair Men just aren't men anymore  | ||
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panda_inc
Australia170 Posts
@cuRee Yea... you're right @PartyBiscuit i cant help it sometimes... I'm just really sensitive@Probulous are you serious that will help? Anyway I'm Christian and honestly feel guilty about watching porn and stuff. So I haven't watched porn in 6 months and I intend to keep the streak going. My record was 8. | ||
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OpticalShot
Canada6330 Posts
BUT DONT LOSE FOCUS this blog is about that original chick yo. If she changed shift so that she could potentially work in the same time as you (which didn't work out at the end, instead you got the Costa Rica hottie lol) bah sorry BACK ON TOPIC if she changed shift I think it's like 90% she wanted to get to know you better, which is a good sign of course. | ||
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ILOVEKITTENS
Korea (South)112 Posts
That's it! At the moment, here is what I gather about your relationship with each one, what potentially relevant things we know about them (this is just to clarify, and it's a good way to keep your thoughts organized as well): "OP" Girl
Interpretation You really can't gather much from this. This is where I disagree from OpticalShot: you haven't really made any commitments to this girl, so why should you focus on her? Unless of course this is your intention/preference, but from what I understand, you like those other girls too. The fact that she switched shifts is just as inconclusive as her not being able to come to a party. Mentally we try to assign reasons for everything that happens around us, and I think it's wishful at best to think that this girl makes all her decisions based on whether she likes you or hates you ^^; But this is a good thing! Why? Because you haven't fucked up yet, and due to this you can still approach her if you choose to do so. Maybe it's just me (I fancy Hispanic women) but I think that at this point in your life, if you like all the girls equally, go for the hotter one xD Why not? "Costa Rica" Girl
Interpretation Very little to gather from here. "OP" Girl might be a little bit of a gossip girl, but it's only natural to talk about others at your work place. The fact that the guy is Asian probably has 0% to do with it, he's probably just annoying or otherwise a prick. It's not even a fact that this is the case, because you heard it from a third-person account ("OP" Girl talking for "Costa Rica" Girl). This has nothing to do with you or the fact that you are Asian, most likely. If it did, you would probably notice it in her demeanor when you worked with her. "Columbia" Girl
Interpretation Pretty much nothing to gather from here, at least from your retelling of the situations. If I may advance a theory, I imagine that you watching no porn leads to less masturbation? Perhaps this might be the issue. Chemically, we are designed to be attracted to women. Duh, otherwise we wouldn't take shit from bitches. We want pussy damn it! And the fact that you have been on a porn-less, potentially decreased-masturbation routine, means that your hormones are probably firing on all cylinders and are telling your brain to find ways to fuck every girl in sight. Honestly, we are often slaves to our penises, whether we realize it or not. In one man's body this control will cause an erection, in another it will cause him to try to seduce the girl, in yours you feel the neurological release of hormones as a symptom of "liking" her. This is the true meaning of "chemistry"! Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that if you start masturbating 5 times a day that you won't like any of these girls anymore. I have this theory that your body knows that that is not a vagina so you will still be attracted to women, don't worry. I'm just saying that it might have made you more prone to feelings of attraction. Don't let them cloud your judgment or deflate your confidence! This is why men usually have greater sexual desires more frequently, and which is why it is usually the men trying to pick up the women. But let me tell you a secret, women want to have sex too. Women want to be liked and want to find a man that they are happy with just as much as you do. You are on the same playing field. So don't feel like you have to climb a mountain to get to their level! So, with all this analysis and hypothesizing, where does that leave you? I will re-iterate: you have not much progress and not much investment in any of these girls. What do I suggest? You become more friendly with all of them, or at least try to. There is no point on focusing on one girl now, you don't know any of them that well at this point, and you don't know which one has the greatest potential to be your partner. The only way to find out is to get to know as many women as possible and then develop a deeper relationship with each girl until you can actually decide which one you like more and which one is right for you. It's not wrong to hang out with all of them or go on lunch/dinner dates with all of them within a few days of each other. Why? Because you aren't committed to any one of them, and a dinner date is not commitment. It's just what people do to get to know each other better. So, mission: 1. Get to know the girls better. 2. Meet the girls outside of your work environment. 3. Gauge your level of interest for them and vice versa. 4. Try to raise it to the next level! Good luck! FIGHTING! | ||
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Servius_Fulvius
United States947 Posts
1). You don't really know any of the girls. 2). You enjoy talking with them and get an emotional boner from special attention. 3). You're reading too much into situations. Stop it! But, since you seem like a friendly and likable guy... 1). You can get to know them better 2). Hang out outside of work. 3). Make some good friends and in the process maybe even a girlfriend | ||
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ranshaked
United States870 Posts
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panda_inc
Australia170 Posts
LoL yea and their english accent is so sexy!!! One of my tutors was also Columbian my attendance for that class was 80% 4 times higher than normal lol.... @ILOVEKITTENS Yes Sir! Assignment accepted. Yes I think your theory is probably right lol I seriously must be super desperate or something falling for every girl who gives me attention.... Regarding masturbation... maybe you don't believe me but I try not to watch porn so I don't do it which means I haven't done it in 6 months. Anyway the girl I last worked with is definitely the hottest.... She seem to be a lot more quite though but very idealistic and stuff... kind of like me... OMG im so lame... liking every girl now lol...... so lonely@Servius_Fulvius Yep... I think so too. I really need to stop thinking too much... and live outside my head. @ranshaked Haha that was smooth! Yea that WAS my plan lol it just didn't happen in real life I do have my own thing its called starcraft II lolol | ||
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TheGiz
Canada708 Posts
On July 21 2011 19:07 panda_inc wrote: Regarding masturbation... maybe you don't believe me but I try not to watch porn so I don't do it which means I haven't done it in 6 months. Whaaaaaat? The last time I did that I was 11. You should masturbate at least every two weeks to keep your gonads healthy. Watching porn is slightly damaging, I'll admit. Mostly because of the time it takes up. Believe me when I say this. Keep that habit (not watching porn) up. We've got broads to wheel instead of porn to watch. | ||
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