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I know this is the ultimate frowned upon thing to do in blogs but just needed a place to rant and see outside opinions and stuff I guess
Basically a few months back I met this gorgeous girl who was on an exchange program here in america at my school. we ended up meeting right towards the end of her time here, and made friends and decided to keep in contact when she went back to (insert country here for privacy). At this point we were just friends and nothing more. When she got back we started talking on instant message more and more, and eventually started talking on skype and the phone a lot, and eventually become really into each other and would spend all the time on the phone, skype, texting each other, having many intimate/sexual things together, etc. We were planning on meeting again in the future, and while it sucked that it was on the internet, I was looking forward to meeting her again and maybe even eventually moving in with her, since she is out of college and I am almost out of college.
Skip forward to a few weeks back now. She decided she doesnt think things can work out in real life, and that she doesnt want anything on the internet. I honestly can perfectly understand this, though I'm a lot more optimistic about making things work in real life.
Anyway long story short. She doesnt want anything anymore, she tells me that she doesn't think she has feelings for me anymore either. I'm completely hung up on her still. I know the "right" thing to do, the advice that has been given millions of times before for situations like this, to let her go, get over her, find someone else, I'll get over it.
I guess I'm not really looking for advice on what the right thing to do is, I'm just ranting because I know it's going to be insanely hard to get over her. She was really something special, something I hadn't seen in a loooong time. I really dont want to have to let her go just like that, because someone like her is very rare for me.
Sometimes I get really motivated and optimistic that someday, somehow, she'll come back. But then I know I'm just building myself up for disappointment. It just drives me crazy knowing that I'll probably never be with her again and that I have to yet again start over with the whole grieving process, getting over her, trying to find someone new, etc. It really sucks. Man, fuck emotions and primal urges.
  
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Snet
United States3573 Posts
Was the idea of moving in together your idea, or hers? That could explain alot.
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Mod edit: Inappropriate response
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On February 14 2010 08:24 Snet wrote:
Was the idea of moving in together your idea, or hers? That could explain alot.
I think I was the one who first suggested it, but the thought process of "meet each other again, see if we make a connection in real life, then decide from there what to do" was pretty mutual. She'd be making serious plans on plane ticket prices, hotel prices, etc. all the time, and giving me links to places she thought would be amazing to move to. So I dunno.
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If a stereotypical asian guy like harold could go to amsterdam for Paula Garcias, think of what you can do!
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On February 14 2010 08:36 ilovezil wrote:
If a stereotypical asian guy like harold could go to amsterdam for Paula Garcias, think of what you can do!
lol.
I'm just so unsure about doing something as crazy like that. I know it'll end up being that I spend a ton of money on a plane ticket, get there, and she'll just be like "uh what the fuck are you doing here, I said I didn't want anything".
:p
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Forget about her and move on.
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On February 14 2010 08:38 Alsar wrote:Show nested quote +On February 14 2010 08:36 ilovezil wrote:
If a stereotypical asian guy like harold could go to amsterdam for Paula Garcias, think of what you can do! lol. I'm just so unsure about doing something as crazy like that. I know it'll end up being that I spend a ton of money on a plane ticket, get there, and she'll just be like "uh what the fuck are you doing here, I said I didn't want anything". :p
It's your life. You only have so much time to decide what you're going to do with it. The way I see it, you only have two options:
1. Do something crazy, fulfill as much as you can during your prime and while you have time.
2. Forget about it, move on, live a normal life.
But hey, what do I know :p
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I posted a lot of blogs recently about the stuff I've been going through.. although my situation isn't really that similar to yours, it does involve having to get over a girl but wondering how you'll be able to do it. I can imagine how you feel, it's not easy. The mood swings are crazy.. sometimes I feel really optimistic and positive, and then instantly I'll start thinking about the bad things. I wish I could give you advice but I honestly can't, sorry.
However, don't think of posting blogs like this as bad.. there's no greater feeling than letting your feelings out. I've come to admire this community just because the people here are a lot deeper than it first seems.. it's pretty cool to be able to post how you feel and be able to receive advice or even see how others lives compare to yours.
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scary how I'm in a situation so similar to this o_O
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On February 14 2010 08:41 Zurles wrote:
Forget about her and move on.
QFT
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Best to just decide what to do, and stick with that, whether you want to try something crazy or something less crazy with her or move on. But to stay in the current awkward position for too long seems like a bad option
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Yep, I agree with what everyone else, and you yourself, have said. Gotta move on! Emotions are a tricky business and when the other person isn't into you, it just can't work unless you have some omnipotent powers...
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If you think you'll regret it for the rest of your life if you don't do anything, do something crazy.
If you think it'll be hard, but you can live, move on.
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never trust those bitches, they only talk to you on skype cause they are bored and they cant get it in their home town, hence need some online entertainment to kill their time.
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iNcontroL
USA29055 Posts
she found someone else.
Also the second you say "in real life" in the context of your relationship with a gf it becomes over.
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