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On January 09 2009 22:05 itzme_petey wrote: you dont have a job yet, can still get a girl?! beggars cant be choosers!
It's not wheter she's the right girl or not. He likes her a lot. She just came along at the wrong time. Just tell her straight up that she is wonderfull but don't feel like having a relationship right now. edit:if you haven't done so already.
with some luck they will stay friends.
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Based on your story, aside from her "look", there's nothing really innocent about her, intentionally or unintentionally. So I'll take as an assumption that she's an innocent person.
Coffee is great, we talk about my company, what happened, we talk about piano, we talk about parents. Great convo, but in retrospect, I probably should've taken her question "are you going to be in town now that your job is gone" as a warning sign, but by the time I was drinking coffee I was just horny as fuck, being single for a while, and didn't want to think too hard about anything.
These topics of the are kinda turn-down for girl. There is nothing into it. Yet she invites you to her place and (everything beyond this point was already decided) hook-up with you on the first date? and then be pretty "distraught" about a guy who she hook-up for only 1 day?
Ok I won't give any direct judgment about her but you don't have to feel guilty about this. You told her the truth instead of fucking around with her, that's enough and let's just move on.
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On January 09 2009 23:44 Elvin_vn wrote: These topics of the are kinda turn-down for girl. There is nothing into it. Yet she invites you to her place and (everything beyond this point was already decided) hook-up with you on the first date? and then be pretty "distraught" about a guy who she hook-up for only 1 day?
Turn-down? Why? Makes me wonder what type of girl you interact with. If you can only talk about the latest pop music album, you've probably got yourself a dumb skank imo.
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Hey whatisprotoss i remember u. U're that retarded guy aruging about international seas.
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man, the happiness of other people is not your responsability. Do what you must. But you should've anticipated this, because i understand you did this for hornyness and you knew the girl before?. Sometimes it's hard reject people, but it's something you must do. It'll be hard but you'll come through it.
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you should send this message to her, not share it with us
if u dont want to date her then u gotta say it before its too late
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Kind of off-topic. I don't get the concept of innocent. I always wondered about it. It seems Americans are hung up on this concept. Nobody in Europe talks about innocence as a quality of a girl. Is someone either a whore or an innocent girl. Is there some cinderella put pussy on a pedistole complex in USA culture. IMO 90% of girls don't fall in either the whore nor the innocent categorie but in a balanced position in between. So sleeping with someone makes a girl an auto whore select. Wut? Is OP a whore two. Or is there a double standard. I really don't get the seemingly ridgit American culture regarding sexuality.
Maybe I'm dumb Eurotrash and see things to black/white, dunno.
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I always thought of it as a very safe adjective to use.
First, it's obviously got positive connotations, such as being the antonym to "guilty," as well as the association with babies and angels, which are common terms that people use to describe their girlfriends.
Second, it's very easy to justify, because the listener has no idea if you're talking about innocence in terms of crimes, experience, personality, etc, so no one's going to be calling BS on you.
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It's a weird feeling when a girl obsesses over you. Either you take advantage of it, feel the same way, or tell her you don't feel the same. Atleast you were honest with yourself and her - it would of been worse down the road if you played her, hurting her even more. Not many guys would of given her the same respect.
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She's innocent in the sense that she's not manipulative or bitchy (unlike that other HK triad daughter psycho).
She just broke up with her boyfriend, parents going through rough patch in marriage, so I guess I'm supposed to be the rebound.
I can't say I mind because I don't have anything invested here, just hooking up sounds great, and since we were friends before I don't care about spending time with her.
So...we decided to go skiing this weekend, just the two of us. But no commitment. At least not yet.
As for a job, I'm looking to stay in this city so that won't be a problem.
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The longer you take to figure out what to do, the worse it's going to get.
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On January 09 2009 20:34 WhatisProtoss wrote:Show nested quote +On January 09 2009 20:09 meegrean wrote: Give her a chance? I guess if you really don't like her, just drop it then. Sigh.. Show nested quote +On January 09 2009 19:13 selboN wrote: So what exactly was your objection toward her? I'm assuming you won't be around since your job isn't around anymore? But if that was so, you'd think she'd have explored further into the subject to see if this was just a hook up situation.. Anyways, if you're going to be around give her a chance. I can tell that you admire her/like her just from the way you write about her. If you are indeed leaving because of your job, just give it to her straight. Nothing much else you can do. You two are both on the wrong page. It's not about giving the girl a chance. Apparently, from what he's said about her, she's a great girl too. She's pretty, talented, etc. But, he's not looking for commitment. He wanted to have some fun, but now he has a clingy girl on his hands. ----------------- Be straight with her. Tell her that she's a great girl, but that you're not looking for commitment. Don't feel sorry for her to the point where you'll try to be friends with her. You don't have that kind of obligation to fulfill. This happened to me once before. I met this new girl, had sex on the first date. Then, I kept getting e-mail and texts. I stopped responding, and the texts became like, "Hey, where are you? I see how it is, jerk!" I didn't tell her that I wasn't into commitment. So, the only way that I got rid of her was by ignoring her. She'll probably be upset if I try to contact her again. [Edit] Wait, she's a good friend?! Shit. That makes it hard. She is probably gunning for a serious relationship. I guess you'll just have to be honest. Most likely, you'll lose her as a friend..... for now...
She wants me to be her rebound, I took her in, we're ok for now I guess, hopefully we can dial it down or up without too much blood spilled between us.
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I don't see why you have to make it a one night stand. I think it's ok for you to date for a while, and just make sure she knows that you're not ready for something too serious yet.
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it looks like you know what you're doing
but still
good luck
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typical guy =/
on another note.
Elvin_vn Vietnam. January 10 2009 08:42. Posts 1656 PM Profile Blog Quote
do not agrue with idiots, they will pull you down to their level and beat you with their experiences
haha so true~
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Update:
It's so cute when girls try hard to make you like them. She just woke me up with the smell of hot chocolate and pancakes...
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On January 11 2009 02:19 t_co wrote: Update:
It's so cute when girls try hard to make you like them. She just woke me up with the smell of hot chocolate and pancakes...
ahh cute. I wish my roommate(Girl) did the same ToT
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On January 11 2009 03:26 Cambium wrote: How is this a problem?
Well, I want to keep my options open but I don't want to make her unhappy either (because she's younger... I guess I feel kind of brotherly to her)
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On January 11 2009 02:19 t_co wrote: Update:
It's so cute when girls try hard to make you like them. She just woke me up with the smell of hot chocolate and pancakes... are u serious D:
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