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This is not intended to be a 'Girl Blog' since I don't feel any attraction nor I have any love interest with this girl. She's just a colleague of work that works on a different area in the same floor. Long story short, we used to have a pretty good relation. She told me that she think I'm funny but weird and that she often sees me as his 'little brother'. Actually she have a brother about my age, probably two years younger; I'm 24 and she is 30 years old.
So, another ordinary day at the office... lots of people are 10 or more minutes late as usual and I'm just sitting here... reading TL. The day didn't promised anything interesting to happen, my boss bosses is too busy to call me for some work we have to do and I forecast a boring and slow day.
Everything is interrupted by an unusual visit from this girl, we will call her Felicity... wait no! We will just call her Lina (red hair from Slayers anime series and Dota 2 protait). As I was saying, lina came to my desk and tell me something like this:
"I need to tell you something, it would be better if you can stop sitting by my side in the company bus, ok?"
"You didn't see that coming, didn't you?"
Something I've noted since I started to work, and in the last years of my university process, is that lots of people tend to 'give 0 fucks' when another persons tells you that he/she dislikes you. Well I'm not that kind of people, I don't feel comfortable knowing there are people in the same floor I work that want to kick me in the balls, at least, if I don't know the reason why.
And that's the problem people, I don't know a shit about what's happening... yes I can put here and there a joke that can be a little bit too rude, I can be silly, ugly, gamer, weird, inmature, naive, etc, etc, but I don't think any of the mentioned can be a good reason to be so, so... so exaggerated.
I'm also not that much naive, I realized a month ago she started to "one word-answering" typical questions "How are you? How was your weekend? Are you ok? It's cold isn't it?". But as she is a girl that is very special (quick and sudden mood swap, unidentifiable reasons to be cold, etc) I supposed she was just having bad times and I started to go by her side, but usually sleeping.
"Oh, I see..."
Yes, maybe she is offended if I go sleeping by her side. What I can't understand if why people goes mad with that. I mean, if you are someone that gives one word answers all the time, don't share anything, don't start a conversation, and go all the way in a bus (15-20 mins) looking at your smartphone with headphones how can you feel 'mad' if someone just sleeps at your side? Is like getting pissed with some one you pissed off.
Well, that's for today. I'm writing this at work and I expect bad things to come. Yes I know, I've intentionally slept by her side in the bus last ... 6 work days or something. But it wasn't me the one that started the unfriendly manners.
I write this on TL so I can see different people opinons, people inserted in different cultures. Is not like that what comes out of this post will be my reaction, but at least I hope to find out that I'm not alone when saying "I didn't started this" (if something actually started).
Thank you for reading.
 
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this is definitely still a [Girl Blog]
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I am so. confused.
...as to what actually happened.
What does "sleeping by her side" mean? And, w/e it is, why would it be offensive?
edit: Actually, at the end, "I didn't started this" pretty much sums it up. Girls will be girls, dude. They will get your attention one way or another. Problem is, you don't know if they seriously want you to back off, or are doing that so that you will advance. Discernment is key. Sometimes the only difference is time. If you wait too long, her wanting your attention can turn quickly into her being letdown and not wanting it. Confused yet? Just ask her what in the world is up - no games.
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On May 16 2013 05:36 itsjustatank wrote:
this is definitely still a [Girl Blog]
Ya you wouldn't be blogging about this if you didn't care about her.
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On May 16 2013 05:36 itsjustatank wrote:
this is definitely still a [Girl Blog]
Well I'm not an expert, but every single Girl Blog I've read involves a love interest. Is more like a 'social blog' ... but I'm agree people thinks the other way around. I would think the same way I think.
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On May 16 2013 05:36 danl9rm wrote:
I am so. confused.
...as to what actually happened.
What does "sleeping by her side" mean? And, w/e it is, why would it be offensive?
Please excuse my terrible english. You see, in the bus there 2 lines of seats, in pairs. Like in a plane.
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On May 16 2013 05:36 danl9rm wrote:
I am so. confused.
...as to what actually happened.
What does "sleeping by her side" mean? And, w/e it is, why would it be offensive?
I think he meant like, sleeping on the bus ride, while sitting in the seat next to her.
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On May 16 2013 05:40 uberxD wrote:Show nested quote +On May 16 2013 05:36 danl9rm wrote:
I am so. confused.
...as to what actually happened.
What does "sleeping by her side" mean? And, w/e it is, why would it be offensive? Please excuse my terrible english. You see, in the bus there 2 lines of seats, in pairs. Like in a plane.
Nah, your english isn't terrible. Keep working on it, but you are very easy to understand. I didn't understand, at first, that you both road on a bus every day and that you happened to sit next to her usually. Plus, I edited my first post :p
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You may have been falling asleep ON her, which could have been uncomfortable for her.
Or you could have really bad body odor. Both seem pretty possible, I used to have problems with both.
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If you care about this then ask her if you offended her in some way and apologize if necessary or move on.
You cant please everybody!
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Maybe she thinks you are romantically attracted to her and that freaks her out. Maybe she just wants to put some space between the two of you. But, someone mentioned body odor, and that might be the problem.
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So you didn't actually ask her why she doesn't want you next to her? Why didn't you just ask her? It would be a lot easier to ask her, the actual person who knows what's going on, than to write a blog hundreds of words long and then throw it up on the internet to receive no real answer to your question.
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i think sleep by her side roughly translates to sexual harassment in proper murican
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Sitting next to her, if there's other seats open, and just falling asleep is kinda/pretty weird dude. Personal bubble invasion.
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On May 16 2013 10:21 TheKwas wrote:
Sitting next to her, if there's other seats open, and just falling asleep is kinda/pretty weird dude. Personal bubble invasion.
Yeah, dude you pretty much burst open her personal zone and with the description you gave of yourself, I don't think she enjoyed that. Then again, I don't know how personal interactions in Chile work compared to that of the U.S.
On May 16 2013 09:06 QuanticHawk wrote:
i think sleep by her side roughly translates to sexual harassment in proper murican
In the U.S., pretty much. In Chile, I don't know if the personal space thing is different like it can be in other cultures. Then again, proper murican is never wrong.
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Do like your coworkers do.. Give 0 fucks about it.
And no, it isn't rude or invasive to sleep anywhere in a bus. You're also not sexually harassing her. Maybe she thinks you like her, or maybe she just hates you. Either way, just ignore it, it's completely unrelated to anything you've done.
Keep on sleeping, that will keep you healthy
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Can't believe you are asking us to make sense of a woman's behavior
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EPT
