EPTlink to part 1 http://www.teamliquid.net/blogs/viewblog.php?id=386658
I was debating whether to update the original blog, but in the end I decided that there was enough material to start a new blog. While I kept reading and rereading all the messages that various people had written, I could see myself a little in each one. However there were some that happened to resonate with the person that was deeper inside. In the end I decided to listen to this piece of advice.
On December 08 2012 03:40 xpldngmn wrote:
Just tell her about your inexperience (you could phrase it as "not much experience with relationships"), and that because of that reason you are unsure about your feelings. Tell her you like her (not love! like! and yes you like her, you don't make out for 1.5 hours with someone you dislike) and that the making out was great (I suppose it was. see how she responds, you could add that it was your first time).
Chances are high she finds your inexperience cute and the kissing goes on a little longer and maybe leads somewhere else. If not, and she is searching for a really serious relationship she will tell you I think.
Maybe she is much more experienced than you, maybe she is as inexperienced like you, but finding out where both of you stand might help.
Option A: she is more experienced and will "guide you" through your relationship. Makes it easier.
Option B: she is as inexperienced, this will take weight off of both your shoulders (not left+right, your's and the girl's ofc) and make things easier for both of you.
As you are clearly overthinking things, asking yourself if you want to lose your virginity with her might be wise. Are you the guy that wants to save himself for the perfect woman or not? There's nothing wrong with wanting to have some fun.
Please have a talk with your parents. They are anti-girl, but you are 18 years old. If they are not overly religious, they can't want their boy to be a virgin until he moves out at age let's say 25. I hope you can find an arrangement. Don't start the conversation with "hey pops, hey mom, there's this asian girl I'd like to fuck, you're in my way", you'll find a more sensitive approach.
GL + HF!
Just tell her about your inexperience (you could phrase it as "not much experience with relationships"), and that because of that reason you are unsure about your feelings. Tell her you like her (not love! like! and yes you like her, you don't make out for 1.5 hours with someone you dislike) and that the making out was great (I suppose it was. see how she responds, you could add that it was your first time).
Chances are high she finds your inexperience cute and the kissing goes on a little longer and maybe leads somewhere else. If not, and she is searching for a really serious relationship she will tell you I think.
Maybe she is much more experienced than you, maybe she is as inexperienced like you, but finding out where both of you stand might help.
Option A: she is more experienced and will "guide you" through your relationship. Makes it easier.
Option B: she is as inexperienced, this will take weight off of both your shoulders (not left+right, your's and the girl's ofc) and make things easier for both of you.
As you are clearly overthinking things, asking yourself if you want to lose your virginity with her might be wise. Are you the guy that wants to save himself for the perfect woman or not? There's nothing wrong with wanting to have some fun.
Please have a talk with your parents. They are anti-girl, but you are 18 years old. If they are not overly religious, they can't want their boy to be a virgin until he moves out at age let's say 25. I hope you can find an arrangement. Don't start the conversation with "hey pops, hey mom, there's this asian girl I'd like to fuck, you're in my way", you'll find a more sensitive approach.
GL + HF!
Honestly you pretty much nailed what was going to happen. I ended up walking back to campus a little bit nervous, texting her where she wanted to meet. Before I could go meet her I had to turn in my lab notebook, and ended up going to our meeting spot a little bit late. As I walked in the only person that was there was felicity sitting on the couch that we had made out previously on while people around us were acting out a play or something (wasn’t paying too much attention to them lol). As I first sat down she leaned against me, wrapping my arm in hers. As we sat there, anyone could definitely feel the tension between us. 5 minutes passed without either of saying a word just the silence as we stared at the wall only 10 yards from us, and listened to the janitor clean the bathrooms nearby with his squeaky wheel. Felicity then asked me what was wrong, and we ended up talking about yesterday, which seemed so surreal and about our feelings, well mostly my feelings. I kind of layed it all out on the table as Felicity quietly sat their stroking my hand and leaning on my shoulder.
After my awkward monologue had finished she sat up and we ended up talking a little bit more. 15 minutes had passed, and another silence worse than the first one settled. In the end she said it was cute that I was soo nervous and that she wasn’t mad. As I thought to myself what do I do know, I remember all the advice that my friends and the TL community had given me. With every fiber of my being I stopped myself from saying “K, I think that’s good enough, I’ll see you tomorrow” (This was literally what I was about to say. After reading other girl blogs, I have learned that this is the shit that you regret the next day). As we endured the tension, Both of us started laughing at the same time for no reason and suddenly everything was ok. We ended up talking about anything and everything for the next 2 hours. I think this was the most enjoyable two hours I have spent. She brought out a cupcake and we took turns feeding each other and just enjoying ourselves. She started singing, and boy can she sing. 2 hours ended up passing in the blink of an eye. As we were about to leave we ended up hugging, and making out for 5 minutes. Those last 5 minutes was better than the 1.5 hours that we had spent together previously. I walked her to the bus stop and went home after wards.
Even though I could have avoided talking to her and as a result progress more rapidly. I'm very happy with what happened today.
Thanks guys
-Sincerely
Mysterymeat
